Does money actually buy happiness?

"Money buys happiness."

This is a quote which has been forced to us to believe. Honestly it's not true.
Sure if you have money you can buy nice things, go to nice places and have a higher standard of living, but you wont necessary get a better quality of life? You can have all the money in the world but no friends. Therefor you will be lonely and sad. You may even have fake friends who only want to use you for your money.

The quote should now be:

"Believing in happiness buys your own happiness"

If you just believe that happiness comes to the people who accept it, then it will be true. If you truly want to be happy then the first step is believe that it's there and you can be happy. Allow yourself to feel loved and excited about things. Being happy is great and if you can be happy for other people, it makes you feel 10x better.

Who gives a f*** anyways?

This post is about things you need to stop caring about. I mean it, these are little and stupid things that you need to just stop giving a second glance or think/

1. People who don't mean a lot
Sure you should care about people, and those who are close to you, but why should you care about those who are distant? We all do it. We are all guilty of it. Scrolling through twitter or facebook and instagram and seeing other people. We are constantly obsessed with the lives of others, we don't focus on our own. So what if you 15k followers don't like you? They are online and technically not real or the same as they would be in real life. STOP worrying about what they think and how they talk to you and start worrying about those in your life. At the end of the day, who are you going to talk to, and who's values do you care about? So what if they are prettier, have more followers and act nicer. In real life they are probably a beg, and you don't want to be a beg so you are already 10x better.

2. Your appearance to others
No one is ever going to be happy with their appearance. No matter what. Even if you're Megan Fox, we all have insecurities, and that's ok. What we need to do is only care what WE THINK. If you learn to love yourself and embrace your appearance then you are winning. If you don't get any likes or faves on a selfie, who cares? Did you post that selfie for them or because YOU thought YOU looked good? Portably because YOU did look good and wanted to show everyone how fab you looked. Stand by it and feel good about yourself because at the end of the day, are the people who say shit going to change anything? No you are the only one who has the power.

3. Regrets
One thing is for sure, us teenagers regret a lot of things. It's fine and normal to do it. We usually do things we regret when we are not in the right state. The thing is just stop. You can't change it so why dawn on it? Do not spend your days regretting things YOU CAN NOT CHANGE. If you can change it then change it, don't regret it. Make a promise to yourself not to regret a single thing. Everything we do makes us the person we are, so do you regret yourself? NO.

4. Things we don't have
We are never going to have everything we want. Even the people with all the money and the Kardashians with their white dreams. I can assure you that money does not buy happiness. I even questioned this myself and finally did come to the conclusion that it simply dosent. Instead of pin pointing the things we don't have and may never have, why don't you make a list of the things WE DO HAVE? Look at all the little things you have in your life and how you have lived with them so far? The thing is, I don't have everything  I want and far from it. God I don't even have a proper camera, but what am I doing about it? I'm making the most of it.  I am making the most of what I have and not letting it stop me. Sure we have days when we really crave things and compare our lives to others. You don't know what happens behind doors so don't ever wish your life away. Appreciate the little things in life and how they can make you happy.

5. Failure
We are always going to fail at something. I bet you, no one has gone through life and NOT failed at one thing. Think of failure as a learning curve. You may have failed once here, but the next time you try, you know where you went wrong? Now you can do it again without that failure and hopefully succeed. It gets you down and puts you in a real shit place. Just remember that you wont learn or get anywhere without fucking up a few times?

Levels in life are REAL?

You may look at this post and laugh and think, Life has no levels? However you are wrong, we have many. More than your average video game. (I know nothing of video games do don't ask)

What does it mean?
Right what I mean is, we all go through different experiences which shape us into the people we are and become. A simple way of putting it is, say you had an old friend in highshcool. You got along perfectly. You both went to the same school and experiences the same education with the same dramas and met the same people? You were then at the same level in life, you could relate to each other problems so easily and resolve them quickly.
Say that same friend went to a different uni to you. You haven't spoken in a year or so. You then decide to call them. They tell you about their new life. How they have a boyfriend, a new job, moved house, a pet, new sets of friends. You may still be stuck in the same town, with the same friends with no job and no love interest. Your friend has progressed to another level in her own life. You have not progressed but stayed at the same level in life. This is what I mean about levels.

How do we determine our own levels in life? 
It's simple. How we establish where we are, we look at our surroundings. Because we all experience different things, new people, new opportunities, new locations we change and adapt to fit in with what is happening. For example, your friend who moved to another uni may have met new guys who she liked, them experiences made her date one of them. She saw new friends who were at uni doing the same course as her, they have mutual interest so they get along. You don't go to uni so you wont understand what she is going on about or can now relate to what she is experience, you drift apart. Because you now both have different paths they wont or will cross in life. This separates our paths and levels. It dosent mean we will never get to them levels it means we will take longer to reach them.

So I hope this has helped a bit as to what I mean about levels in life, if you have any questions let me know.


Also if this doesnt make any sense to you then it's ok, you are no where close to advancing just yet.

Friends forever Friends for never?

This is an important post about friendship. What does friendship even mean to you? Just ask yourself that, can you sum it up in a sentence?

We have all been through them middle school, high school days where we have met some people who we think are going to be our "best friends for life" but soon find out this is not true. At the time it may seem like you're BFFL's and it's the end of the world when you fall out? At the time yes and maybe, but we grow and learn to move on and mature, it's part of life.

My experience is, I had a solid 6 group of friends at highs school, we even had  name for ourselves and thought we would be besties for life. Soon sixth form and college came. This is what really separated us as we all went to 3 different ones. Even then we still were close and met up on weekends. There were some dramas between half of us and I was stuck in the middle still being friends with both halves, which was hard. When uni came around it was clear things wouldn't last at all, well not between us all anyways. I started getting closer to my outside friends and friends of twitter like James, Priya, Cat and Debs. I spent most of my summer with them, they did things I LIKED. I could be myself around them. I would always see them because of gigs, we shares a happy experience. 

So it was obvious I would become closer to them right? I drifted away from my other friends back home at different unis. I said I because only I drifted. Where I found myself and found out what I want to do with my life and who I want to be, so did they. They all stuck together and maintained the highshcool friendship. That is fine, and that is good for them that they are all still so close. I am happy that they still have each other, but I am also happy I am not part of that anymore. Honestly I started feeling awkward around them and I couldn't be myself. So I drifted away, not on bad terms but on growing up. I still like them as people and respect them but we will never be besties because of our life paths and that is perfectly ok.

So now I am at a very mature stage in life where it is ok to let go of old friends and bring many new ones in. I have accepted that we are sometimes only in eachothers lives for reasons, and when that reason is fulfilled they are no longer needed. Everyone we meet, good or bad makes us who are are. Every little experience we have makes us who we are. It's up to us to choose if we want these occurrences to destroy us or build to us? I have now understood about the levels in life and happy enough to carry on progressing.

I will respect everyone as we all move at different levels in our life and thats perfectly ok. Hopefully one day, those who let experiences build on them will reach the right levels in life to be happy and not let anything get them down.

What I will say about my experience with an ex friend is that she simply hadn't reached the same level in life as me. She did not understand this nor was mature enough to carry on with her life and forget. She chose to let the things consume and destroy her, because she is not mature. This is fine because one day she will grow and finally reach a mature level where she will look back and see she had overreacted to many situations. But if she carries on with her ways then she will simply be the cause of death on her self. Everyone has their own path in life, if we cross and then follow parallel then it was meant to be. Don't let things destroy you, make them add to the person you want to be.

What I am getting at is, your friends may not be forever, some maybe never but there are a fair few who will be forever. Just accept change easily, because if you dwell too much on the past and what had happened you won't get far in life. Be happy that you were once friends and you once shared happy experiences, yes it maybe sad that you wont share anymore, BUT you will share many more with other people.

Life is all about growing and letting yourself grow, everything is a choice, remember that.

I Loved, I Loved #3

It's so simple yet so complex. Yes it is so easy to hate, we can all hate anything even if we dont. It comes to natural to us, to hate things and its deemed to be "cool". Like hating BVB and BOTDF is cool, Hating the mainstream is cool, Hating your hometown and parents is cool? But to be kind and gentle? To actually do them two things. How many times do you see someone say something nice to another?

A simple oh you look nice today, how was your day, I love that top. Yet we think these thins but never voice them. By not voicing them we then feel like we are not wanted. If no one says nice things to each other then everyone will just feel hate. So rather than hating everything and being seen as "cool" just be nice, because being nice will return in your favor. Try it a few times and if it dont work, then fair enough, just try.

Surround yourself with the right people #2

Now if you know me, then I am sure you are all aware of my best friend Priya.
This is a lame soppy post but I HAVE TO POST IT. Yeah well Priya is like a sister to me. Everyone honestly needs a Priya in their life. Since I decided to have a positive attitude on life, Priya has followed and been there to put me into shape whenever I have felt like giving up. She's like my angel and I mean that.

No matter what she is going through, she will put her own troubles and feelings aside to cater for me. She will even pick up the phone at 3am and come to my house and cook me pasta when I am sad. I could not ask for anyone as great as her in my life and the fact that I have her in it means the world to me. I know I will never find anyone as great as her and am so grateful that she is in my life because I love her more than I can express. ( more than subway)

This is half an appreciation post and half a post saying that you need someone like her.
If you're like me or was like me, and used to be a sad miserable shit not taking control of your life and letting them sad times get the better of you then you need that someone to whip you back into shape and make you laugh. So what I did is, i got rid of all the toxic people in my life, the people who made me feel like shit or dragged me down.
I used to constantly compare myself to this one girl, we were good friends but everything she did, she did better, everyone liked her better. I had it in my mind that we were at competition and all my friends liked her better, it was un healthy and stupid. Priya was the one to sort me out, she made me realise how much I was appreciated and how much I am worth. I dont need to be compared to people who are worse than me.
Now i dont even think twice about that girl. We have grown and she has ruined her life, while I have chosen to convert the sadness into positivity and I am much happier now.

So when it comes to the people in your life, choose wisely, because even if you have that one person who tells you "no" or brings you down, it will ruin you. Find a positive light, a person who NO MATTER WHAT will tell you things will be ok, even if they wont, at the end of the day that is all you need.

If you have friends who put you down or even make you feel uncomfortable then thats where you are going wrong. Even if it means having no friends GET RID OF THEM ALL. I have learnt this the hard way, you dont need them. You are better than that and worth more, so first respect yourself to leave them, because you can either end up like them, or end up happy.

this is us in a snapshot

Songs about memories #1

I was just on spotify going through some random playlist and this song came on. It's so simple but so memorable, it brings back so many memories which are good and bad. I like how it relaxes me and takes me on a trip back to memory lane, all of these random memories that are unlinked come flashing back. It's hard to accept some of them, that some are over and some people are no longer in my life and that these memories will never happen again. But thats the beauty of it all, that there will never be a same memory and we forget some but remember bits which we allow ourselves to remember.

So how to deal with this sudden flash of emotion you can control?
Look back on your past as a learning curve, whatever you feel and remember when listening to that one song, accept it. It has happened and you can not change that. It happened for a reason, you may not understand that reason right now but I know it happen for one. Be happy that you are still here to re live that memory and that more will grow from what has happened, the next may even be better. Do not dawn on unpleasant memories, simply pass them by and replace them with much happier moments in your life.