We have all been through them middle school, high school days where we have met some people who we think are going to be our "best friends for life" but soon find out this is not true. At the time it may seem like you're BFFL's and it's the end of the world when you fall out? At the time yes and maybe, but we grow and learn to move on and mature, it's part of life.
My experience is, I had a solid 6 group of friends at highs school, we even had name for ourselves and thought we would be besties for life. Soon sixth form and college came. This is what really separated us as we all went to 3 different ones. Even then we still were close and met up on weekends. There were some dramas between half of us and I was stuck in the middle still being friends with both halves, which was hard. When uni came around it was clear things wouldn't last at all, well not between us all anyways. I started getting closer to my outside friends and friends of twitter like James, Priya, Cat and Debs. I spent most of my summer with them, they did things I LIKED. I could be myself around them. I would always see them because of gigs, we shares a happy experience.
So it was obvious I would become closer to them right? I drifted away from my other friends back home at different unis. I said I because only I drifted. Where I found myself and found out what I want to do with my life and who I want to be, so did they. They all stuck together and maintained the highshcool friendship. That is fine, and that is good for them that they are all still so close. I am happy that they still have each other, but I am also happy I am not part of that anymore. Honestly I started feeling awkward around them and I couldn't be myself. So I drifted away, not on bad terms but on growing up. I still like them as people and respect them but we will never be besties because of our life paths and that is perfectly ok.
So now I am at a very mature stage in life where it is ok to let go of old friends and bring many new ones in. I have accepted that we are sometimes only in eachothers lives for reasons, and when that reason is fulfilled they are no longer needed. Everyone we meet, good or bad makes us who are are. Every little experience we have makes us who we are. It's up to us to choose if we want these occurrences to destroy us or build to us? I have now understood about the levels in life and happy enough to carry on progressing.
I will respect everyone as we all move at different levels in our life and thats perfectly ok. Hopefully one day, those who let experiences build on them will reach the right levels in life to be happy and not let anything get them down.
What I will say about my experience with an ex friend is that she simply hadn't reached the same level in life as me. She did not understand this nor was mature enough to carry on with her life and forget. She chose to let the things consume and destroy her, because she is not mature. This is fine because one day she will grow and finally reach a mature level where she will look back and see she had overreacted to many situations. But if she carries on with her ways then she will simply be the cause of death on her self. Everyone has their own path in life, if we cross and then follow parallel then it was meant to be. Don't let things destroy you, make them add to the person you want to be.
What I am getting at is, your friends may not be forever, some maybe never but there are a fair few who will be forever. Just accept change easily, because if you dwell too much on the past and what had happened you won't get far in life. Be happy that you were once friends and you once shared happy experiences, yes it maybe sad that you wont share anymore, BUT you will share many more with other people.
Life is all about growing and letting yourself grow, everything is a choice, remember that.
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