I Loved, I Loved #3

It's so simple yet so complex. Yes it is so easy to hate, we can all hate anything even if we dont. It comes to natural to us, to hate things and its deemed to be "cool". Like hating BVB and BOTDF is cool, Hating the mainstream is cool, Hating your hometown and parents is cool? But to be kind and gentle? To actually do them two things. How many times do you see someone say something nice to another?

A simple oh you look nice today, how was your day, I love that top. Yet we think these thins but never voice them. By not voicing them we then feel like we are not wanted. If no one says nice things to each other then everyone will just feel hate. So rather than hating everything and being seen as "cool" just be nice, because being nice will return in your favor. Try it a few times and if it dont work, then fair enough, just try.

Surround yourself with the right people #2

Now if you know me, then I am sure you are all aware of my best friend Priya.
This is a lame soppy post but I HAVE TO POST IT. Yeah well Priya is like a sister to me. Everyone honestly needs a Priya in their life. Since I decided to have a positive attitude on life, Priya has followed and been there to put me into shape whenever I have felt like giving up. She's like my angel and I mean that.

No matter what she is going through, she will put her own troubles and feelings aside to cater for me. She will even pick up the phone at 3am and come to my house and cook me pasta when I am sad. I could not ask for anyone as great as her in my life and the fact that I have her in it means the world to me. I know I will never find anyone as great as her and am so grateful that she is in my life because I love her more than I can express. ( more than subway)

This is half an appreciation post and half a post saying that you need someone like her.
If you're like me or was like me, and used to be a sad miserable shit not taking control of your life and letting them sad times get the better of you then you need that someone to whip you back into shape and make you laugh. So what I did is, i got rid of all the toxic people in my life, the people who made me feel like shit or dragged me down.
I used to constantly compare myself to this one girl, we were good friends but everything she did, she did better, everyone liked her better. I had it in my mind that we were at competition and all my friends liked her better, it was un healthy and stupid. Priya was the one to sort me out, she made me realise how much I was appreciated and how much I am worth. I dont need to be compared to people who are worse than me.
Now i dont even think twice about that girl. We have grown and she has ruined her life, while I have chosen to convert the sadness into positivity and I am much happier now.

So when it comes to the people in your life, choose wisely, because even if you have that one person who tells you "no" or brings you down, it will ruin you. Find a positive light, a person who NO MATTER WHAT will tell you things will be ok, even if they wont, at the end of the day that is all you need.

If you have friends who put you down or even make you feel uncomfortable then thats where you are going wrong. Even if it means having no friends GET RID OF THEM ALL. I have learnt this the hard way, you dont need them. You are better than that and worth more, so first respect yourself to leave them, because you can either end up like them, or end up happy.

this is us in a snapshot

Songs about memories #1

I was just on spotify going through some random playlist and this song came on. It's so simple but so memorable, it brings back so many memories which are good and bad. I like how it relaxes me and takes me on a trip back to memory lane, all of these random memories that are unlinked come flashing back. It's hard to accept some of them, that some are over and some people are no longer in my life and that these memories will never happen again. But thats the beauty of it all, that there will never be a same memory and we forget some but remember bits which we allow ourselves to remember.

So how to deal with this sudden flash of emotion you can control?
Look back on your past as a learning curve, whatever you feel and remember when listening to that one song, accept it. It has happened and you can not change that. It happened for a reason, you may not understand that reason right now but I know it happen for one. Be happy that you are still here to re live that memory and that more will grow from what has happened, the next may even be better. Do not dawn on unpleasant memories, simply pass them by and replace them with much happier moments in your life.

Introduction

I guess this my introduction post about why I am starting this and a bit about who I am. The who I am is not as important. I want to start a blog to help/advice and just exist for the people who need a bit of faith. There is no use looking at depressing images on tumblr or listening to Brand New when you're sad. So why not try and convert that emotion to something positive and motivational?

I got the name Sadends out of it's ring, sadness ends, so sad ends? It's simple and emo and basic and me.

So I don't really know what I am going to do on here or how to help but I'd like to start somewhere.

I plan to post once a day (if I can) with a quote or picture that sums up how I am feeling and ways to over come it, maybe even a song that sums it up. I just want for everyone to have a chance to take control of their own actions and overcome the sadness alone. Because in the end you're alone, and you are the only person that can change that.

I am in no way a professional or whatever and dont know everything but if it helps me, and it has then it may help you. This is more for people to develop a positive attitude to life and value it, it is also to teach them about how to convert a negative into positives, because no one should be sad.