Levels in life are REAL?

You may look at this post and laugh and think, Life has no levels? However you are wrong, we have many. More than your average video game. (I know nothing of video games do don't ask)

What does it mean?
Right what I mean is, we all go through different experiences which shape us into the people we are and become. A simple way of putting it is, say you had an old friend in highshcool. You got along perfectly. You both went to the same school and experiences the same education with the same dramas and met the same people? You were then at the same level in life, you could relate to each other problems so easily and resolve them quickly.
Say that same friend went to a different uni to you. You haven't spoken in a year or so. You then decide to call them. They tell you about their new life. How they have a boyfriend, a new job, moved house, a pet, new sets of friends. You may still be stuck in the same town, with the same friends with no job and no love interest. Your friend has progressed to another level in her own life. You have not progressed but stayed at the same level in life. This is what I mean about levels.

How do we determine our own levels in life? 
It's simple. How we establish where we are, we look at our surroundings. Because we all experience different things, new people, new opportunities, new locations we change and adapt to fit in with what is happening. For example, your friend who moved to another uni may have met new guys who she liked, them experiences made her date one of them. She saw new friends who were at uni doing the same course as her, they have mutual interest so they get along. You don't go to uni so you wont understand what she is going on about or can now relate to what she is experience, you drift apart. Because you now both have different paths they wont or will cross in life. This separates our paths and levels. It dosent mean we will never get to them levels it means we will take longer to reach them.

So I hope this has helped a bit as to what I mean about levels in life, if you have any questions let me know.


Also if this doesnt make any sense to you then it's ok, you are no where close to advancing just yet.

Friends forever Friends for never?

This is an important post about friendship. What does friendship even mean to you? Just ask yourself that, can you sum it up in a sentence?

We have all been through them middle school, high school days where we have met some people who we think are going to be our "best friends for life" but soon find out this is not true. At the time it may seem like you're BFFL's and it's the end of the world when you fall out? At the time yes and maybe, but we grow and learn to move on and mature, it's part of life.

My experience is, I had a solid 6 group of friends at highs school, we even had  name for ourselves and thought we would be besties for life. Soon sixth form and college came. This is what really separated us as we all went to 3 different ones. Even then we still were close and met up on weekends. There were some dramas between half of us and I was stuck in the middle still being friends with both halves, which was hard. When uni came around it was clear things wouldn't last at all, well not between us all anyways. I started getting closer to my outside friends and friends of twitter like James, Priya, Cat and Debs. I spent most of my summer with them, they did things I LIKED. I could be myself around them. I would always see them because of gigs, we shares a happy experience. 

So it was obvious I would become closer to them right? I drifted away from my other friends back home at different unis. I said I because only I drifted. Where I found myself and found out what I want to do with my life and who I want to be, so did they. They all stuck together and maintained the highshcool friendship. That is fine, and that is good for them that they are all still so close. I am happy that they still have each other, but I am also happy I am not part of that anymore. Honestly I started feeling awkward around them and I couldn't be myself. So I drifted away, not on bad terms but on growing up. I still like them as people and respect them but we will never be besties because of our life paths and that is perfectly ok.

So now I am at a very mature stage in life where it is ok to let go of old friends and bring many new ones in. I have accepted that we are sometimes only in eachothers lives for reasons, and when that reason is fulfilled they are no longer needed. Everyone we meet, good or bad makes us who are are. Every little experience we have makes us who we are. It's up to us to choose if we want these occurrences to destroy us or build to us? I have now understood about the levels in life and happy enough to carry on progressing.

I will respect everyone as we all move at different levels in our life and thats perfectly ok. Hopefully one day, those who let experiences build on them will reach the right levels in life to be happy and not let anything get them down.

What I will say about my experience with an ex friend is that she simply hadn't reached the same level in life as me. She did not understand this nor was mature enough to carry on with her life and forget. She chose to let the things consume and destroy her, because she is not mature. This is fine because one day she will grow and finally reach a mature level where she will look back and see she had overreacted to many situations. But if she carries on with her ways then she will simply be the cause of death on her self. Everyone has their own path in life, if we cross and then follow parallel then it was meant to be. Don't let things destroy you, make them add to the person you want to be.

What I am getting at is, your friends may not be forever, some maybe never but there are a fair few who will be forever. Just accept change easily, because if you dwell too much on the past and what had happened you won't get far in life. Be happy that you were once friends and you once shared happy experiences, yes it maybe sad that you wont share anymore, BUT you will share many more with other people.

Life is all about growing and letting yourself grow, everything is a choice, remember that.